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Claudia  I stopped paid employment because you can hardly satisfy a Nigerian employer if you're not suffering on the job. Most organisations here have toxic work culture. People carry their seniority mentality from secondary school into the workplace. I used to overwork (that's literally how we work here). Do all that and more.  While working for Nigerian firms, I thought hardwork was good work till I started working with a Ghanaian firm where you get upto 2weeks to deliver one article yet they pay on time. I shock! A Nigerian company will expect you to deliver 5 to 10 contents (articles) in a week.  How?....& for what? Worst still, if you have a terrible superior your work may never pass. It's more like a "dog eat dog" situation where correction is not done with "your growth" in mind. You'll be feeling drained and looking overused and abused all the time. That's why their HR be like "can you work under pressure?" As if it's a g...

Life is a journey! Yesterday's experience helped shape today's behaviour. Everyone has a history and it's only wise to understand where someone is coming from in order to understand the journey, direction and aspirations. This would help you to identify redflags such as patterns and toxic traits in the person.  I would not hold brief for a toxic partner or overlook bad behaviour rather I'll address them and put them in check but in doing so be careful to not become the demon you're trying to conquer.  The manner in which we approach issues has a huge impact of the outcome (actions & reactions).  You might ruin a beautiful thing by digging too deep into the past. Let their present personality and reality guide "the future" of your relationship.  Giving the circumstance at the time they behaved/acted/reacted in a particular manner they may not have better ideas as to how to deal better but overtime, people begin to have perspective shift and mental ...