5 Ways To Slay Single Parenthood.
Thursday, 26th/April/2018
By-Claudia Nwankwo
You meet your sweetheart, fell in love, and all goes well then shortly after the kids start coming and your joy knows no bounds. With time, you realize the honeymoon is over and life pressures takes over and you start to struggle with the relationship/marriage.You want this to work, make all effort but the ship stops sailing.
Your intention was never to end up without a partner but life happened.
Whether you want to blame yourself or blame the world for your shortcomings /failed relationship or face the situation head-on, is your choice but the fact is that you are now a single parent and you just have to live with that.
It is pretty difficult to handle a role designed for two people alone. It gets really tough sometimes being lonely and having to carry all on your shoulders.
There would be times when you wish you could just go far away from all your worries but you really cant. Also, you now have little ones who need you and depend on you to survive.
Single parenting is definitely not an easy task but you've got this!
If you feel so alone and down because you aren't getting support, worry not. Here are 5 simple friendly steps to help you live one day at a time.
Analyze the situation critically, ask yourself, how did I get here, is there something you would have done differently? and where do I want to go from here? Take a decision to keep moving.
It is not the end of the world!
Learn from your experience and move on. Lagos is palace is so not let the past break you rather let it guide you into a better future. When you have finished criticizing yourself and have accepted you for who you are, no-one else can tell you otherwise.
You have a responsibility to raise your kids and you cannot afford to fail. Your thoughts, efforts, resources and decision should be properly channeled to better your life and that of your kids. People will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. It’s in your best interest that (even as a single parent) you succeed. You must learn to put you and yours first!
Set boundaries, Set realistic goals and condition yourself to achieve them step by step. You will need a lot of energy to achieve your goals so stay focused. You would be more fulfilled if you have met your own expectations.
For your own sanity, you have to focus.
Now that you have become a single parent, enjoy the awesomeness that your little one(s) bring(s). It's an amazing experience even more amazing if you would choose to live your life deliberately.
By-Claudia Nwankwo
Your intention was never to end up without a partner but life happened.
Whether you want to blame yourself or blame the world for your shortcomings /failed relationship or face the situation head-on, is your choice but the fact is that you are now a single parent and you just have to live with that.
It is pretty difficult to handle a role designed for two people alone. It gets really tough sometimes being lonely and having to carry all on your shoulders.
There would be times when you wish you could just go far away from all your worries but you really cant. Also, you now have little ones who need you and depend on you to survive.
Single parenting is definitely not an easy task but you've got this!
If you feel so alone and down because you aren't getting support, worry not. Here are 5 simple friendly steps to help you live one day at a time.
- Be your own critic: It seems natural to want to wallow in self-pity, blame the other party but yourself. But at this point this doesn’t help. Enough with the pity party by friends and family. Cry if you must but you need to dust up and get moving, the kids are waiting for directions.
Analyze the situation critically, ask yourself, how did I get here, is there something you would have done differently? and where do I want to go from here? Take a decision to keep moving.
It is not the end of the world!
Learn from your experience and move on. Lagos is palace is so not let the past break you rather let it guide you into a better future. When you have finished criticizing yourself and have accepted you for who you are, no-one else can tell you otherwise.
- Act in your best interest: You should prioritize. Single parenting is not as easy but not stress yourself further trying to do all/ be all worst of all to impress. Know what is important and what is not.
You have a responsibility to raise your kids and you cannot afford to fail. Your thoughts, efforts, resources and decision should be properly channeled to better your life and that of your kids. People will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. It’s in your best interest that (even as a single parent) you succeed. You must learn to put you and yours first!
- Focus: People naturally like to mind other people’s business but you must learn to ignore certain things like gossips and unsolicited opinions. Choose your battles wisely, nobody understands you better than you.
Set boundaries, Set realistic goals and condition yourself to achieve them step by step. You will need a lot of energy to achieve your goals so stay focused. You would be more fulfilled if you have met your own expectations.
For your own sanity, you have to focus.
- Fix your mindset: Everybody is fighting their own battles so your situation is not peculiar to you. You have to understand that being a single parent (just as it doesn’t qualify for anything) does not disqualify you from living a normal life, it’s all in the mind. Your perception about your situation and life in general is a function of your mindset, always keep it positive!
- Live your life: Whatever rocks your boat give it 100. There is no need to worry about uncertainties.
Now that you have become a single parent, enjoy the awesomeness that your little one(s) bring(s). It's an amazing experience even more amazing if you would choose to live your life deliberately.
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