A Loose Tongue is as Dangerous as a Loaded Gun.

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Brethren I bring you today's gospel: By Claudia Nwankwo

Setting boundaries are always important in every relationship be it family/friendship/work/neighbourhood etc. We must all know our boundaries and how to set them in relation to others.

Mutual respect sustains peaceful co-existence. Don't jump into people's business uninvited expecting accolades.

Learn to stay in your lane.

Mind yourself not to discuss your family with friends, friends with family etc.. briddle your tongue!

A loose tongue is as dangerous as a loaded gun.

You can ruin lives and relationships by mixing s#!+ up.

You should control your thoughts and your tongue (not the other way round). Somethings are best not said (especially if you are not sure).

You can ask for help from others but do not drag people into your discussions without their knowledge, it is gossip! Talkative does not mean you must talk about people. If you find yourself always discussing people instead of ideas then you are not different from a witch.

Keep personal issues, personal. Family business, within the family et al. You can only find a balance if you are able to separate every aspect. I do not want to go spiritual about how discussing your plans can hinder your breakthrough but you should know that plans are just plans, people only need to see results.

Loose talking is a sign of indiscipline.

Great communication skills does not include gossiping.

Learn how to set boundaries for yourself and others. If you are finding it hard to keep your $#!t to yourself, reduce exposure (to avoid being vulnerable). As an adult, you should get your @$$ together for real. Else you will loose important relationships.

If you are known as a gossip/leaking mouth, everyone around you will treat you like a leper. When people see you approaching they be like....stop talking or let's change the topic she/he is coming. Even those who love you will keep things away from you to avoid spillage.


If you think you have this problem and it is a weakness, then deal with it before it deals with you.

How?

  • Sometimes you need to take a break and think things through for yourself (not always asking other people) you have a functional brain and mind, put it to use! 
  • Avoid digressing, address issues objectively.
  • Give advise only when it is solicited.
  • Mind your damn business!


Selah.


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