Why Women Withdraw: What Men Can Do.

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Women want to love and be loved back. Give her assurance!

when a woman loves she puts herself in a position of vulnerability. How can a woman be vulnerable with someone who does not meet her emotional needs? Like the love bank, how can she make deposits if there is nothing to give?

Two things happen when a woman is in love. She either goes all out trying her best to satisfy his every need, in hopes that the man will learn from her kindness and reciprocate or she decides to withdraw her love to shield herself from the pain it may cause her.

The former in most cases may lead her to resort to nagging and whining and ultimately leave her frustrated and miserable. If she decides to withdraw, she becomes non-responsive, inattentive and ultimately uninterested in the man. There are stages to these things as you can see. The relationship can be salvaged depending on what stage it was when the man realizes himself and takes action to resolve but in the case where the man remains carefree, ego driven and insensitive, he ends up losing the woman.

No matter how intense, a woman who is self-aware can withdraw her love.

Its not such a difficult task!

She may decide to face her goals and divert her energy and attention to other things outside the relationship. She may suddenly become busier and less caring as her schedule no longer revolves around him. In some cases, she may even withdraw sexually which is natural.

If your lady has withdrawn, she will drift farther and farther until she has shut off from you completely. If you value your relationship, you cannot leave a withdrawn woman untended and neglected, because, before you even know what is going on, she will have reached the point of no return and she will be gone.

The heart can only take so much. As the man, you are the leader of the relationship. You are in charge of where it goes, and she can choose to go with you, or not, but you must be the leader and initiate. It starts with you. The man (male energy) in the relationship must give first, in order for her to respond. If she is interested, she will respond appropriately to what he has offered. Depending on her level of hurt and your level of effort shown, she may not be able to respond immediately.

Damage cannot always be undone with the first healing action. The woman needs to feel loved before she can give back. In other words, you get what you give. So, if you want your woman to be responsive to you in any way, do what you need to do to make her feel loved. If you don’t know what to do, ask her. She will appreciate your conscious effort to make her happy.





















































































Credit: The Goof's Guide to Relationships

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