Being Matured Single Must Be Pretty Tough Around Here






Claudia

The moment men hear of or see a "matured single" woman, top of mind becomes how to get "a piece of the action".


Its worse when she's a single mom.




They see and think of her as helpless and vulnerable. With no good intention, they seek her in the most disrespectful manner. They look down, they talk down, they demean her.

A man (in his 50s once said to me) " if you cannot keep a home, you cant keep a job". I replied, "sir, I don't keep anything that's bad for my sanity" of course, I didn't get the job and I didn't mind.

To that man, it was about my inability to accept or holdon to just anything but to me, its about the value that such a thing holds. 


I was not created for other people's pleasure alone. If it doesn't benefit me too, why should I holdon to it?

Being a single mom must be pretty tough around here!

Single women are supposed to do everything to please and attract men?

Well...I didn't get the memo. I do not subscribe to women shrinking themselves to fit in.

Alot of women are not living their lives but the lives that others want them to live. Simply because "she needs a man".

Wait a minute!

Like....men don't need us?

I mean, these men who can't take care of themselves, who cannot clean up and fix up?

Single women are supposed to be intelligent, good looking, healthy, hardworking yet unexpressive? 


Successful but not more successful than the man she's dating? Kind, selfless, effortlessly making sure her relationship does not fail?

Seriously, there's a JD? And its HER duty to deliver?


Claudia


She is supposed be great in bed with a healthy but not too healthy sex drive, super pretty, soft spoken, sweet, thoughtful, mentally stimulating, exciting and spontaneous enough to KEEP A MAN.

A woman should be ALL that just to be able to keep a man and he just has to have only money. Even if he is deadbeat-broke ass-no ambition-mofo, all he needs to have is a dick and some silly attitude?

The world has surely gone mad! And I blame women.

I blame women because this kind of mentality, has driven a lot to misery. Women endure disrespect, tolerate badly behaved men and stay in toxic relationships longer than necessary because what people would say.

So, because I am a single mom, I must be helpless and vulnerable and ready to accept anything coming from just anyone? No!

I am not a weak woman!

I choose who I want to fuck with. I choose where I want to work. I choose. I make my own decisions. I am in charge here!

Dear woman,


You don't have to be all that.

Be strong, be self aware, be sensitive, be happy.


Be you, do you.

You deserve all your desires and more. The life you want is possible, don't just desire it, go for it.

From boardroom-to-bedroom, slay!







































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