People Grow-up, People Change, Let The Past Be!

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Life is a journey!

Yesterday's experience helped shape today's behaviour.

Everyone has a history and it's only wise to understand where someone is coming from in order to understand the journey, direction and aspirations. This would help you to identify redflags such as patterns and toxic traits in the person. 

I would not hold brief for a toxic partner or overlook bad behaviour rather I'll address them and put them in check but in doing so be careful to not become the demon you're trying to conquer. 

The manner in which we approach issues has a huge impact of the outcome (actions & reactions). 

You might ruin a beautiful thing by digging too deep into the past. Let their present personality and reality guide "the future" of your relationship. 

Giving the circumstance at the time they behaved/acted/reacted in a particular manner they may not have better ideas as to how to deal better but overtime, people begin to have perspective shift and mental conditioning as they deal with more people and situations. 

 They learn, they grow! 

 Life happens to all of us. People learn from experiences, people grow, people change. Judging them based on their past might be wrong...If you want someone, you can work with them to achieve what you want to achieve. Be kind, keep your heart open and give your partner benefit of the doubt. 

You might be that huge influence to make a great difference in their life. Its interesting how minor thing from the past swept under the carpet can bleed something new but it's most if you allow it get out of hand because it mostly starts with the thought, then the actions that follow might make or break your relationship. 

What's most important is that you understand your role in a relationship and try to be the good person you wish for in others too. Own up to your own short comings as well and work towards your own growth and being a better version of who you were yesterday. 

 In reality, occasionally, We are all hypocrites. We are all imperfect! As you learn and grow yourself you're able to help others grow. 

 This is not to say the past dont matter. It does! Make sure to visit the past but do not dwell thereon. Browse through it in order to make informed decisions for a greater good but do not go digging too deep give room for growth.

That someone failed in the past does not make them a failure. Besides, failure is a part of growth process. Failed relationship in the past does not mean they are a failure. 

Everyone has issues but if you find someone you care about and find ways to cope with the issues and accommodate their excesses, then you can create a beautiful relationship. 

Finally, relationships are not complicated, people are. 

 Staying positive helps to stay winning!

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