Blind Spots In Marriage

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Claudia Nwankwo



 Hitting the blind spot in marriage can be a challenging and delicate issue. In the context of a marriage, a "blind spot" typically refers to an area of tension or misunderstanding that one or both partners are unaware of or choose to ignore. These blind spots can potentially harm the relationship if left unaddressed. 

Here are some key points to consider:


1. Lack of Communication: One of the most common causes of blind spots in marriage is a breakdown in communication. Sometimes, couples avoid discussing sensitive topics or their true feelings, leading to misunderstandings and hidden tensions.


2. Unmet Expectations: When partners have unspoken or unrealistic expectations of each other, it can create a blind spot. These unmet expectations can lead to disappointment and resentment over time.


3. Changing Needs and Desires: People change over time, and so do their needs and desires. Failure to recognize and adapt to these changes can result in a blind spot, as one partner may not realize how their actions or behaviors affect the other.


4. External Stressors: External factors such as work-related stress, financial difficulties, or family issues can create blind spots in a marriage. These stressors can cause partners to focus on external problems rather than their relationship's internal dynamics.


5. Avoiding Conflict: Some couples avoid conflict at all costs, which can lead to unresolved issues festering beneath the surface. While avoiding arguments may provide temporary relief, it often exacerbates blind spots in the long run.


Addressing blind spots in marriage requires open and honest communication. Here are steps to help navigate these issues:


1. Self-Reflection: Each partner should take time to reflect on their own feelings, needs, and concerns. This self-awareness can be a starting point for addressing blind spots.


2. Active Listening: Practice active listening when your spouse expresses their thoughts and feelings. Try to understand their perspective without judgment.


3. Seek Professional Help: If communication breakdowns persist, consider seeking the help of a marriage counselor or therapist. They can facilitate productive conversations and provide guidance for resolving issues.


4. Set Realistic Expectations: Openly discuss and set realistic expectations for each other, taking into account both partners' needs and aspirations.


5. Regular Check-Ins: Make it a habit to have regular check-ins with your spouse to discuss the state of your relationship, any concerns, and areas of improvement.


In summary, hitting the blind spot in marriage is common but can be detrimental if left unaddressed. Open and honest communication, along with a willingness to adapt and grow as a couple, is essential for identifying and resolving these blind spots to strengthen the marriage bond.

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