No excuse for bad behavior

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Recently, I’ve been reading alot of hot takes on divorce and how people expect women to tolerate badly behaved men whereas the men just want to “enjoy life”…


I have always said that the solution to cheating is walking away or cheating back where the first option seems too extreme because people do not ordinarily behave well if there are no consequences.

“Fostofall” you have to really be silly for you to give what you cannot take.

It is important for us to acknowledge that adult actions are primarily DELIBERATE choices. 

It’s not funny how people make silly excuses for bad adult behavior. Dismissing their behavior as mere mistakes or misunderstandings. We must realize that such leniency only enables a cycle of irresponsibility and harmful behaviors to persist.

Adults, by virtue of their age and experience, are expected to exercise sound judgment and take responsibility for their actions. 

Making excuses for them not only undermines this expectation but also ignores the impact of their choices on others. 

It's all too common for people to push boundaries, testing the limits of acceptable behavior, and then retreat behind flimsy justifications when confronted. Some will push you to an extreme and turn around to say “you are overreacting”.

Worst still is the gaslighting tactics of manipulating others into questioning their own sanity just so they can ultimately silence those who dare to hold them accountable. 

This behavior is toxic!

It only enables perpetrators to evade responsibility and perpetuates a cycle of psychological manipulation and abuse.

Refusing to accept silly excuses for adult behavior is about demanding respect for yourself and others. It's about setting boundaries and refusing to tolerate behavior that undermines your personal well-being or actions that violate basic principles of decency.

By holding adults accountable for their actions, we uphold the standards of integrity and mutual respect that are essential for healthy relationships.

I strongly believe that you should sometimes give people a dose of their own medicine but that might somehow seem unreasonable or excessive and against some people’s faith but we cannot accept excuses in place of genuine remorse and change.

They will quote religion, tradition and all manner of things to subjugate others. Stand your ground and DEMAND accountability.

Nobody should destabilize your life with their unseriousness. If you cannot pay them back with their own coin, atleast hold them accountable.


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