Do yourself the favour of being aiit

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 I have learned in my little life never to service any type of negativity.





I've had to free up quite a number of relationships for the sake of my peace. As I get older, I understand more why some people find comfort in pets over humans.


There's something peaceful about not having entitled people around, those who demand more than you can give and hold unrealistic expectations for no reason.


People who do so little but want your entire existence in exchange.


It's exhausting to deal with ungrateful people who only take, never considering you. Who want to put you down as soon as they see your slightest vulnerability.


To have people with no good intentions hanging in your corner in the name of “friends & family”. And the betrayal of those who gossip and backstab and hope for your downfall for no reason...


There’s a certain stability that comes with chilling in your lane, living life intentionally and minding your damn business. 


So much to gain from not holding anyone to any standards and not having to rely on anyone for anything. In taking everything and everyone as they come and go and still live happily. 

 

Spouses, jobs, friends and even family…all can be replaced. Even your children can desert you.


Realize that you’re all you’ve got for sure and do yourself the favour of being aiit.


 Do it for your peace of mind. Sanity!


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