The art of loving.

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Claudia is the name


Love is not a prize you win for just “being someone” or just “doing something”, it’s more of what you do and how you do it. Is the art in the act that makes it interesting.


I recently got my daughter an iPhone 16 for her birthday.
She was happy and grateful. Later, I got her a pair of AirPods. Her reaction? Pure joy. Uncontrollable excitement. The kind that lights up the whole room.

Logically, the iPhone should have meant more. It costs more yea… It carries more “value” on paper but here’s the truth: while the iPhone meant more to me (because it cost me more) the AirPods meant more to her and her reaction was completely VALID.

That became a teachable moment for me because it mirrors how many of us love in our relationships.

We often give what we think is important. What we value rather than what truly matters to the person we love. And when our effort isn’t received the way we expect, we feel unappreciated, frustrated or/and taken for granted.


But sometimes, it’s not a lack of love. It’s a mismatch in how love is expressed and received.


Many people burn out in relationships not because they didn’t love deeply but because they loved wrongly.

They gave expensive gestures when presence was needed.
They offered solutions when comfort was required.
They showed strength when softness was what was desired.

Love isn’t one-size-fits-all.

To love well, we must listen. Observe. Learn. Understand what makes the other person feel seen, valued and safe.

Because love isn’t about how much you give but more about how well what you give is received.

There’s how you love a person and there’s how the person you’re loving wants to be loved. When those don’t align, conflict is inevitable. 

Balance is the key. Otherwise, you may feel like you’re giving your all yet still walk away disappointed.

And that, truly, is the art of loving well. 

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