7 Ways To Build A Healthy Relationship

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We are all different. Our individual differences is what makes us unique. We cannot have it all but if we open up our hearts to each other we have opportunities to gain a new perspective, learning new things and improving on ourselves. A healthy relationship is one that nurtures and embraces each of our special qualities.

Here are 7 Items that make up a healthy relationship.


Love: Love is a beautiful thing indeed and it deserves sustenance. Our emotions control a chunk of our well-being. A person in love has almost zero (other) worries because a heart that is capable of loving is precious. Loving somebody and being loved in return is a feeling that everyone deserves to experience. If you have found someone you love then you have the potential to achieve success in other areas of your life. Some say "love hurts" but that's not correct. "Love does not hurt, being with the wrong person does". 

It is possible to get the person you love to love you back as they say, attitude is everything. Nurture your relationship with kindness and tender-loving care and remember to always stay positive.


Respect:Try not to lord your personal experience or opinion on your partner or dismiss their contributions. Talk in a pleasant manner and never give away your internal problems to the public. Not all fights are toxic. There would definitely be misunderstandings. Every relationship go through stages and series of issues. You can actually learn new things about your partner from every fight you have. Never disrespect your partner by words or body language or by doing things you know are out of line for them. 



Avoid comparison, do away with pride and unhealthy competition. You may hold different ideologies or beliefs no matter the difference between partners, it is easy to get-by where partners learn to give each other space and value each other enough to respect boundaries and make the relationship work.

Communication: A healthy relationship is one with alot of communication. You have to express yourself and LISTEN, pay attention to what your partner is saying, not just the words, but their behavior and the way they express their emotions and feelings and actions. Do not over-flog issues and never assume your partner knows something when you haven't taken time to talk to them about it, do not store up grievances, keep your communication straightforward and honest—not critical or judgmental, and not shaming or blaming.


Commitment: If you do not stand for something, you are likely to fall for anything. Commitment is the bedrock of everything you do in a relationship, its all about loyalty. It is your level of commitment that determines the in/out value of your relationship. Rather than feel frustrated and angry when problems arise, it’s important to keep in mind that part of the commitment to a healthy relationship is getting over your personal feelings and expectations in order to work out solution that is in the best interest of both partners.

Forgiveness: You understand their intentions beyond actions and forgive even when you haven’t got any apology. You are making conscious effort to sustain the happiness in your relationship knowing that you are responsible for your own happiness and spreading happiness to your partner.
There would definitely be times when you may feel disappointed or frustrated as a result of your partner’s actions or even due to external factors. A healthy relationship helps to stay afloat and strong to support each other and pull through. The longevity of your relationship depends largely on your ability to overlook the surface, understanding that your partners intentions are pure and having a heart that forgives.

Co-operation: It takes two hands to clap.
In decision and in making choices, you should put heads together. Opinions of both parties should be considered in problem-solving process. You cannot act single while you are in a relationship. You have to work as a team to overcome obstacles in your relationship and achieve success.The two of you are equal partners and are equally relevant. You need to make conscious effort to keep your relationship away from drama. You have to make yourself available, accessible, reliable and dependable. You need each other!

Trust: Trust implies the unshakable confidence that no matter what happens, you both remain loyal to the relationship, not keep secrets, remain open to working out whatever difficulties that may arise and honour commitments. As much as possible keep third-parties at arms length from your relationship issues. Trust means that you believe that your partner has what it takes to weather the storms of life and come through them standing by your side. Always keep an open mind and give your partner benefit of doubt. Their own side of the story is always valid and you must learn to LISTEN. 
Motivate each other, hold one another accountable, show that you care.

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