5 Tips to guide you when dating a married man

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Author: Claudia

A good number of women at one time or the other in their lives would knowingly or unknowingly date a married man. It might not be ideal but then "sugar daddy" is a thing.

For some, it's a thing of fantasy. Others say it is mostly circumstantial. 

Whatever the reason you decide to get involved with a man who is already committed to someone else by marriage, just know that it is mostly short-lived and has little to zero growth potentials.

Here are 5 tips to help guide your relationship:

1. Set boundaries: It's always better to keep him away from your apartment just as he (most likely) would do. 

Meet him at a neutral spot like a hotel or if he is keeping a special apartment for your relationship, you should have a separate apartment of your own where your friends/family can have clean access to. 

This would also help you to carry-on on a clean sheet when you eventually find someone else to settle down with. 
 
Set things straight with him, let him know where not to cross the lines.


2. Keep your options open: Do not go exclusive with a married man. It's not worth it!

No matter how sweet he is, he is still NOT eligible. 

Even if he picks all your bills, don't make the mistake of keeping him without leaving room for more a eligible gentleman. Remember you cannot date him forever. 

He would most likely find someone younger and cuter or someone with more of whatever the catch was with you.

You will always be an option for him. So, leave room for your own life advancements too.


3. Call the shots: Remember he is playing the convenience card with you. Except he intends to marry you too and he is clear on that, it doesn't make sense for you to keep him alone. 

Do not give him such powers to leave you bored and lonely while he's having a swell time with his family. He only sees you when he wants to, try to get busy with your life while he is away. 

Don't stay up waiting on him sis, get a life!

You ain't taken till you are. So, keep your options open. 

He can support you but don't let him determine your life choices, let it be mostly on your terms.


4. Don't fall in love: Whatever you do, stay focused on the fact that you are clearly a side chic. 

If you ever find yourself getting confused about how or what you feel for a married man, snap out it! Whatever the reason you decided to date him in the first place (most likely for some kind of support) make sure you stay on it and get it unapologetically. 

Do not mess things up for yourself by getting too emotional to the point you start going off track. Make sure to preserve your happiness.

You can be catching the bag or catching flights but do not catch unnecessary feelings.


5. Respect his marriage: You already know he is married. So, don't try to be stupid, keep his family out of your mouth. 

His marriage is not your business, keep away, mind your business. 

Don't try to get close to his family or start performing wife duties, it's no use. The chances of you replacing his wife is almost zero. 

Always remind yourself of your position and do not intentionally try to escalate your position. 

The reality is that he belongs to someone else so, do not get too attached.

The trick is to relax, have fun and enjoy it while it lasts.

Comments

  1. Unknown2.2.20

    I read 5 tips to guide you when dating a married man and it made me laugh the aspects of Not falling in love that is a hard part, the heart could melt and anything could happen

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  2. Puzzo3.2.20

    True. The heart could melt but it helps to have a clear head and focus on the goal which should never be love because he is married and not eligible.

    ReplyDelete

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