Claudia lives here💕

 Nothing good comes from arming anyone — whether with a gun or with your heart. When we think of weapons, we imagine power placed in someone’s hands that can harm us. Yet many of us do the same in relationships when we hand over our peace, self-worth and identity to someone else. It may not leave visible scars but the emotional weight can be just as destructive. Too often, love is mistaken for overextending ourselves. We bend until we break, sacrifice until we’re empty and chase after people who only meet us halfway (if at all). Surrendering the best parts of ourselves to someone who hasn’t earned or proven they can protect them. This is not love.   True love doesn’t ask you to arm someone else at your own expense. It doesn’t demand endless explanations, constant proving or the quiet acceptance of neglect. The right person will not only accept your love but also honor it, protect it and give back with consistency and care. Staying true to yourself means recognizing that your h...

I’m okay with being the villain in the story to anyone who lacks respect, commitment and common sense. Those words have become my mantra.  I no longer apologize for setting boundaries or for protecting my peace. I am okay with cutting ties with anyone who lacks integrity. With anyone who makes promises they do not intend to keep or says one thing while doing the opposite. I am very fine disconnecting from a person who creates a false sense of scarcity of themselves or resources just to watch me go through distress in the name of ‘testing my patience.’That is not love, it is manipulation…and I choose to walk away. I have zero appetite for nasty people or toxic relationships.  Life is too short to invest energy where it only breeds pain, confusion and emptiness. So when I find myself in a situation that drains me and adds no value to my existence, I do not fight, I QUIT.  Quitting, for me, is not a sign of weakness. It is strength. It is freedom. It is self-love. My Peace o...

NECO Surprised Me — In the Best Way! I honestly didn’t believe it until I experienced it myself. NECO (National Examinations Council) is the only Nigerian institution I’ve encountered that feels  truly automated . Here’s why I’m so impressed: An examination I wrote  25 years ago  (their very first pilot year) got verified and sent straight to my email  in a matter of seconds ! The entire process took me just about 5 minutes: ✅ Register online ✅ Make payment ✅ Verify payment ✅ Submit request That was it. No endless queues. No “come back tomorrow.” No chasing signatures. No frustrations with ChatBot. FULLY automated. My official report came through immediately and all for just  ₦5,000 . Let’s pause here: NECO has not only kept their records from Day 1 but also built a system that actually works. Wow! More surprising is the fact that I don’t have to submit any document, I only entered my exam number and voila! Now compare that with my alma mater, a Nigerian univers...

  From a woman’s lens. What peace of mind looks like Marriage: A word so often dressed in the language of love, companionship and “happily ever after.” It is portrayed as the ultimate fulfillment of human connection…two hearts choosing to walk the same path, to share laughter, struggles and dreams. Whereas in actual sense, marriage is meant to be a partnership built on trust, respect and mutual sacrifice but  the reality for many is far this. Understand that marriage is not a bed of roses. It comes with challenges of course. It demands a lot of patience, understanding and commitment from both partners. Yet, in many homes this balance is missing. What should be a haven of safety sometimes becomes a place of silent suffering because of one person’s selfishness and desire for control. Many women especially, endure the weight of marriage at the mercy of merciless partners. They stay bound by culture, societal expectations or the hope that things will get better. Some endure emotio...