How to bag a man

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Duchess Claudiopuzzo 😍


A lot of women out there are confused about what it really takes to bag a man.

Here’s my simple advice: stay in your feminine energy.


A man who’s looking for a wife doesn’t want to feel like he’s dealing with another man trapped in a woman’s body. Meaning… it goes far beyond looks and curves.

I know too much, I have too much, I can do so much will only burn you out. You’ll only be putting unnecessary weight on his “fragile ego” Sis, moderation is key. Dont be too forward. Let the man lead.

Be his peace.

When they say “be his peace” it means a whopping lot to know that it’s not every issue you confront, report or complain about. You need a strong "shock absorber" to handle some of his excesses. You need to chill for the most part. Do not be quick to speak and react in anger.


If you’re not ready to leave him and you know that raising a certain issue might tear you both apart, sometimes it’s wiser not to bring it up immediately. Timing and wisdom matter.

A woman who’s at war with her self-esteem, or who is confused about her own life, cannot give another person peace. So, learn to take things easy.


You need to be that girl, truly and deeply.

Here are some things I’ve learned that can help you bag your own man:

  • Humility – He wants to feel at home with you. He doesn't want to have to pretend or second-guess his worth around you. He would do well with you if you’re calm and kind.

  • Availability – He wants you to make time for him when he squeezes it out of his busy life. A woman who is constantly "too busy" sends the wrong message. Be ready for him. Let your mind and body dance to the tune he sets. Work& walk with him!

  • Internalize a little – Learn to keep some things private. Don't rush to seek everyone’s opinion. Think deeply and introspect. Speak with trusted loved ones only if necessary, but know when to guard your relationship. Sometimes, things get only as big as you make them seem… don’t overthink everything. It’s not always about you.

  • Patience – He wants you to move gently not rush or pressure him. Trust the process and give him space to grow into the love. Do not jump into conclusions or assume you know and don’t be in a rush to query everything. Sometimes, just observe and wait.

  • Honesty – If he loves you deeply, he might test your loyalty and truthfulness. If you fail that test, he may become deeply disappointed and quietly move on. Don’t say you’re going one place and go to another. Do not ask for something that’s not needed or divert funds when provided. It pays to be trustworthy.

  • Communication – It’s not just what you say, but how you say it and how you react/respond to issues. Your perspective on life and issues would count. Keep an open mind and let the atmosphere around your relationship be breathable. He wants the freedom to speak his mind without feeling like he’s walking on eggshells.

  • Confidence – He desires a smart, self-assured woman. Someone who knows her worth but is still gracious, not arrogant. A woman who isn’t easily moved by every little trend or opinion.

  • Intelligence – He values a woman who can take initiative, make plans and build with what she has. Someone who is not just waiting, but actively creating.

In conclusion:
You can be all these things and still not bag a particular man and that's okay. It simply means he’s not your man.
Being all these won’t keep an unstable man either, but that’s not on you.

To bag a man doesn’t necessarily mean you’d be able to keep him but if you’re a valuable woman, men would always want to be around you.

So, it pays to just do your part and let love find you.

As for me, I am that

 woman that gives my best shot at relationships so, if it fails, I dust myself up and move on with my head and shoulders high knowing I DID MY BEST.

Be the woman who is ready for love when love comes and let God and life do the rest.

Actually, this is more like…”How to be a premium woman” because that’s what you should rather focus your energy on and that way, na dem go dey rush you.

My posts are for sabi girls ONLY.

If you know, you know.

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