The 3 Ps of womanity

Author: Claudia Nwankwo

People don't know that women experience more temptation than men do. 

Men think that they get tempted the more just because they see alot of ass & boobs everywhere but if we're being 100, women have to say "NO" countless times in a day. They have to block, caution & sometimes have to insult men just to get breathing space.

Some men can actively keep trying to woo a woman for years.

The temptations are even more for women in relationships because for some strange reasons (though arguably) women feel more relaxed and complete when in relationships. So, they attract  more men naturally.

People generally believe that "men are scarce", "the good men are all taken" etc. The women who have these mindset are (themselves) their own pull back factor.

How is it that one sister is struggling to keep up with 10(ten) men while you have none?

Not everything is voodoo and not all women come cheap. It's in the little simple things like how you walk, how you talk, how you think and the how you respond/react/do things. 

Before you start wondering how they are getting all the love while you are not...Sis, look yourself very well o! If you be man, you go toast you?

If you cannot bet on you, why should anyone else?

You should be your biggest investor, your biggest fan and cheerleader. 

Stop outsourcing your ability to think and feel good to others.

Energy is contagious, keep it positive.

However you look at it, there's power in womanity. 

Those women you envy, who get so much attention know the power they possess and how to make it work for them.  

Many women go about with defeated mindset. They're so laid-back that they don't make effort to grow. 

Especially single ladies, who allow the frustrations of their singleness dictate their energy.

Being a woman is NOT a weakness. 

As a woman, it is important that you ooze strength and confidence, that's how you become noticeable, attractive, and irresistible so, people can feel your energy without much ado.

• What kind of energy do you have?
• What vibe do you spread?
• If you are not happy, how will you radiate happiness?

There's alot more to meeting a man's needs than your looks, food & sex. Even much more than a woman being able to pay her own bills.

Men want women to just be women. 

Yes! "You cannot keep a man who doesn't want to be kept" but do you know that a man can fall for a woman?

Women have got so much power but many do not know how to use it. 

Sometimes over "wokeness" can ruin your happiness. 

You cannot emasculate a man and get anything good out of him. 

Let the man  be the man, leading from the front while you focus on capturing his heart (That's where the key is). 

There's really no need struggling positions, competing with your man or trying to prove a point. If you do your part as a woman he will fall naturally and at that point, you win.

Therefore Sis, be deliberate about these 3 things: Personality, Packaging and Positioning.

A correct babe has the right proportion of these three qualities. You want to come correct? Let's go...

Personality

Goes beyond physical looks or beauty. It's not about the container alone but the content especially.

Who are you and what are you about? How are you rated when it comes to holding conversations, sharing ideas, speaking words & taking actions?  

There has to be something about you that sets you apart. More  like a unique identity that makes you irresistible.

Whether you are single or not, you've got to have faith in yourself that you'll be fine and prepare yourself to be a jackpot. 

Don't go about dumbing down your personality to appeal to just anybody, the right kind of man will eventually come along.

Packaging

This goes beyond cosmetics. Train yourself to appear with poise.

It's not enough to tag yourself a "Queen". Do you have sense?

A true Queen is humble, confident, endearing, gracious, intelligent, generous, courageous and wise. A Queen understands "when and how". Does your lifestyle depict you as a Queen?

Be deliberate about paying attention to yourself, taking care and loving yourself as much or even more than you'd expect from a man.

Positioning

There's a way you'll carry yourself and nobody dares not notice. 

Be prepared, visible and accessible to the right kind of people it is important for your sanity. Be deliberate about who you chill/roll with and who you let into your life.

Choose your circle wisely!

You've got to be prepared to be an embodiment of love and happiness when you eventually find yourself in a relationship. That's how you humble temptations.

You project your impact, expand your presence, position yourself for greatness and that's how you win!

Whether you are married, matured single or a young single lady nothing stops you from having a personality and a good life. 

Train yourself to be the best version of you and to be a reflection of who you want in a partner. You have to be a complete woman to attract a complete man.

Whatever you want others to do for you at-least be willing to do it for yourself. If you don't take risk on yourself, who will?